EQ stands for Emotional Quotient that means the ability of a person to control his or her emotions. The higher your EQ, the better you are at controlling your emotions.
Now, the question is, how to increase your EQ? Let me bring you a story. There’s a woman who finds it hard to control her emotion and she gets angry easily even thought sometimes she knows that it’s really her fault.
So, she went to a temple to find an old monk to talk about her problem. Without saying a word, the monk locked her up in a small room. The woman was very angry and scolded the monk, “Hey you dirty monk! How can you do like this to me? You’d better let me know.”
She scolded, barked and screamed for a long time but the monk just ignored her.
Then the woman changed her attitude. She used the begging method. She begged the monk to let her go but the monk just pretend not to hear her.
After a long while, the woman calmed down. Then the monk came to ask the woman.
“Are you angry?”
“Yes! I am angry of myself. Why I am so stupid to come and ask for suffering here?” cried the woman
The monk shook his head and replied, “The people who can’t forgive themselves can not find their happiness.”
After a while, the woman sighed and said, “I’m not angry anymore because it doesn’t worth it.”
Again, the old monk gave his witty reply.
“Still considering whether it worth it or not means that you have not let go the anger.”
The sky is now getting darker and the temple become quieter. Only the sound of insects can be heard.
This woman slowly immersed herself in the calmness of the temple. The old monk appeared and before he had a chance to spit out a word, the woman asked him.
“Would you please tell me the meaning of angry, master?”
“It means punishing yourself for other people’s mistakes” replied the master happily.
Do you learn something from this story?
Do you feel stress and angry often?
